Dear MrMoose...

I have read your posts. They are not lengthy, but they hold a ton of pain and confusion and self-doubt.

I have my opinions on your wife, but there is no reason to listen to me, at all. They would only be based on what information you have given, anyway.

I think you have a lot to offer. I think you have a pretty low self-esteem (probably caused by, definitely exacerbated by, Mrs.Moose).

You are hurting. I think that therapy for yourself might give you the ability to speak without being judged so that you can hear yourself and (maybe) gain back some confidence.

I failed at my own therapy (for different reasons) so perhaps I am not the one to give advice. Lord knows nobody has to listen to me.

But I think it would only be of benefit to you to understand that you have a voice, and you have a right to be heard.