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Originally Posted by MedicatedMe
Your marriage sounds abusive -- psychologically at least. Just remember this: it is not your fault. I know that's kind of cliché but always tell yourself that you deserve the best. He lied to you, and chances are, he will lie again. Maybe he'll be more discreet next time, but I don't believe that this is a healthy relationship for you.
That being said, I'm by no means a marriage counselor and I don't know what is going on in your life besides what you just posted, but always remember, this is your life and you have the power to choose whatever path you'd like to take. Are you happy with this man? Do you love him and can you see yourself spending the rest of your life with him? If you have trouble answering these questions then you have found your solution.
Choose the path that will make you happy.  |
Right now, today, I am not happy with my husband, and I let him know that. I let him have it with both barrels! He didn't have much to say except to try to make some lame *** excuse about needing to talk dirty with women because he's not getting what he needs from me.
Can I see myself with him for the next 10-20 years? Maybe, but will exact a price from my soul like my first marriage did. But here is my present reality: I don't work, can't work. Can't collect disability because I paid into a state retirement fund for nine years, not social security. Can't touch my retirement for another 11 years. Sooo, I don't have any money of my own, not a pot to piss in. I took care of my disabled ex husband for 26 years, took care of our 3 children, and supported my current husband our first 5 years and helped him get his job with the school district...and this is where I'm at, at 54. The irony of it is just pathetic and sad. I've made another miserable bed for myself and I don't know if I have the courage and wear-with-all to get out of it.