My husband of 3 and half years was just diagnosed bipolar 2 weeks ago. I can definitely see the signs now, but a psychiatrist had put him on lexapro and Wellbutrin a few months prior to his craziest episodes. Then all of a sudden after not drinking for 4 years started going out after work and drinking in bars. After a few times of this I went to the bar and found out he had been texting with another woman telling her we were getting a divorce. I was devastated. Really until the past little while I thought our marriage was wonderful. Yes, little fights here and there but nothing out of the ordinary. The next day he was telling me he wanted a divorce. He came to our house and just stopped. He cried and told me how much he loved me and how sorry he was! A few days later he tattooed my name on his wedding ring finger without me even knowing! Things were great for 3 weeks. Then about two weeks ago he started drinking again and his new psychiatrist called me and said he needed to go to a hospital to be stabilized. My husband just went back to a bar and never even came home to tell me anything. The next day he was great and said I could take him to the hospital. He stayed 6 days. He got out Friday and was wonderful that night. The next morning though he was full of rage. By the next day he had broken many things in our house and taken money from our family and left to drive to the beach to "start over." He said his parents and I control and smother him and he has to live for himself. Then all of a sudden he turned around and came back for me to take him to the hospital 2 days after being released. This time while we were waiting he would flip back and forth drastically between "please never leave me" to "I'm not happy with you and just need to be alone." He gave me his things to take home then shortly after took them away because he said I was cheating on him! That was 7 days ago. He is still in hospital, but won't be much longer. I have barely spoken with him and have not seen him at all. He has punched a hole in the wall at the hospital I know though. Another patient told him there that we never should have gotten married and yesterday he says he plans to get an rv and just drive around when he gets out. I am so lost!! Is this really my husband? Today his parents told me they saw him and he is coming home to stay with them when he gets out. I tried to call him and he told the nurse he wasn't doing to talk to me. We have children involved in this! Both of us have a child from previous marriage and one together. Is he even thinking correctly? Should I just go ahead and file for divorce? Will this make me look bad to have a second divorce for child custody? I am just so confused. My heart is breaking. This man is like a complete stranger to me. I have so many other thing s going on as well and I just feel so deserted in the middle of everything an now he won't even speak to me.