I wonder how they're supposed to be then.... I'm not attacking you, I don't mean it that way, I'm just curious, I mean I guess I want some positivity out of my t just because well I guess I want her to be confident in what she does and I want to learn how to be positive and confident and I feel like she is helping me to learn that by being that, or something. If I went in there and she was all negative and morose that would definitely not help me at all, then again I tend to think in black and white extremes I went to the exact opposite end and said negative. Instead of thinking well maybe she means, they should be neither positive nor negative, they should just be 'nothing' or something. Then again I am not sure I know what am even trying to say.