Ah I get it. Yes, neutral was the word I was flailing around for and couldn't find. I guess what I was trying to get at (and failing very badly) is that there's a place for positivity and I want it, but not at the expense of humanity - I want acknowledgement of whatever I am going through and only then a reminder of how I can make it be for the best. Or something like that. I want to see somebody model that for me. Because I am not very good at seeing past whatever it is I'm in the middle of to know that something better is coming. Or something.

Sorry for rambling. I am here on the couch avoiding preparing my application for an opening at work for a "Communication Specialist" within my current job title/pay grade. ie it's not a raise just a change in responsibilities. And it would get me off the phones. I think I would be really good at it but I'm having a hard time putting together a little portfolio of things demonstrating that I can create graphics, and power point presentations, and that I can write work instructions and stuff. I can't find anything from my previous jobs, I have it all in a folder, but it's gone missing in our last move. Grrrr. So I'm trying to make new stuff and I can't focus. It was a very short turnaround time from when they announced it to when the application is due which is tomorrow.