I have been with my husband going on 3 years now and I'm beginning to feel hopeless in a couple of areas. The first one being his family. I have had to deal with several of his family members verbally attacking me, insulting me and my kids, and accusing me for crazy things such as being controlling and psycho. However, I also found out that some of these behaviors were because HE makes me out to be crazy to his family when I've confronted him on things like secretly talking to other girls or hitting my kids to hard when he disciplines. I have confronted him on this and we even got a therapist that explained to him that he needs to refrain from belittling me to his family or involving them in our disagreements. He still does it anyway. The therapist also told him he needed to arrange a meeting with his mother and he needed to express to her that it is not ok to put me down and emotionally abuse me. He never followed through on this either and simply told me he called her and told her privately. He also makes a lot of excuses for his mother's behavior and says things like "don't take it personally...That's how she is and everyone's had to put up with her crap". But it's getting worse. Last week we got into yet another disagreement regarding his being to rough with my kids when disciplining and the next thing I know, his mom is at my house, in my face, verbally attacking me and my kids. I finally made her leave my property and then expressed to him that he needs to defend me regarding his mother and her actions and that he also needed to confront her on this. It's been a week and he hasn't said anything to her even though he's spoken with her on the phone and been to her house. What do I do with a husband that refuses to listen to therapists and even his own wife?