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Like I think I said before, I don't necessarily *mind* a contract, but I dislike the fact that it covered so much and I had NO input into it whatsoever.

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It does seem that you would have better buy in to the contract if you helped create it. There is always the choice to reject the contract and ask to create a new one that you have input into. It might help your T gain greater insights into you if you were involved in the process.

It sounds like you have many misunderstandings with your T in therapy, canders. Maybe some of those could be cleared up if you met with him regularly and got to know each other better (I know it has been hard for you to schedule). Maybe he is rushing all this contract stuff (focusing on this "thing") and needs to devote more time to you and building the therapeutic relationship. On the other hand, he probably just wants to keep you safe, and maybe in his experience, a contract is helpful. For me, I would not do a written contract, but if my T asked me to swear I would not hurt myself and looked me in the eyes and I agreed, I definitely would not break my promise, because my word is good and I would not lie to my T. If I couldn't give him this assurance, I wouldn't agree. But the written thing would be offputting to me, like he didn't trust me to keep my verbal promises. It would definitely throw a little rupture into our therapy.

I think an important thing is to establish a regular schedule of seeing this T so you can work out some of the communication difficulties. Hang in there.