Well, this is interesting, sister. It made me wonder how often do I disagree with my T? I agree with him on a lot of things, and he always invites me to tell him if his interpretations are off base, and he isn't stubborn if I tell him he is not "right on" with his idea. He learns more about me by my acceptance/rejection of his interpretations. When we had the "rupture" session where I thought he was just boneheadedly wrong about some stuff with my husband and me, I did get angry at him, but we didn't have a shoving match. I'm not sure I know how to have a shoving match. Do the 2 people just restate their case over and over and refuse to budge? When that happens, I think it is perfectly fine to say, "looks like we won't be agreeing on this" and then change the subject. I think if the person has good data to support their case, then I can change my mind quite easily.

It must feel uncomfortable to be shoving with someone you like and respect so much. Maybe surprise him next time and refuse to play shove.

Good luck in your session today. Mine is today too.