Hello epatlanta: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral... from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

I'm afraid I don't have any useful suggestions for you here. Short of legal action, you can't force your wife to do anything she doesn't want to do. So I think you'll have to allow your attorney to guide your decision making. There are, however, many knowledgeable & caring members here on PC. There may be other members who will yet reply to your post with helpful suggestions.

Please keep posting. The more you post, & reply to other members' posts, the more connected to the community you will become. In addition to the forums, there are social groups you can join, & chat rooms where you'll be able to interact with other members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.)

One forum you may want to take a look at is the relationships forum: http://forums.psychcentral.com/relat...communication/

Good luck...