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Originally Posted by pppp3
Please STOP and consider these thoughts....
Your overachiever and perfectionist qualities are admirable,
but I'm wondering if maybe you are too hard on yourself,
(too many demands/expectations) because
(maybe) it makes you feel like,
IF you have CONTROL over everything, bad things won't ever happen to you again?
- Even Donald Trump (your idol) has had many "failures"; I think he has filed for 4 bankruptcies and 2 marriages ending in divorce, and likely dozens of girlfriends...
And those are the type of things that make him seem more human.
I expect he would say (like most successful people do),
that he's learned more valuable lessons from his failures, then he has from his successes.
Personal relationships are complicated and very unpredictable -
And they often FAIL,
but the joy (while in them) far exceeds, the pain we feel when they end.
It's almost impossible, to feel healthy, without somebody caring about us.
Feeling loved will also help to heal the scars, from all those people that were so horrific to you.
Keep conquering the world , but please try to let somebody into your life, to share all your successes with.
I'm fairly certain that, will make you feel better, and more relaxed/content.
Since you're so independent and self-motivated, you have nothing to lose.
(You're obviously not afraid of being alone, like too many people are).
Minimal risk.
And btw, those who really care about you, it won't matter to them how BIG your empire is - -External successes are a measurement convenient for Society and Strangers,
but not a true indicator of a person's self worth, or their value as a human being.
It's the opinion's of those who care and love you, that matters most.
I remember a long time ago somebody said to me,
"It's what's written on our tombstones when we die, that really mattered in our life "
(I won't have one because I want to be cremated)...
But anyway,
tombstones say things like, "faithful husband, loving daughter...caring friend";
And, they don't say things like,
"Earned a million"; "Donated to a hundred charities"; "Opened 5 successful businesses"; "Won and became president"; "Read 1000 books", etc.
Important, admirable accomplishments, but not the MOST important thing in our lives.
Allow yourself more free time, to be human,
and to experience those things, that some day, will matter to you the most.
Good Luck 
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All right, I'll stop (for a few minutes... go ahead
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My, my, you're a mind-reader, you read me like a book. I'm indeed doing all this to protect myself from further suffering but doing so, is perhaps hurting me even more, I'm starting to fear...
You are correct, no personal bankruptcy but 4 business out of over 500 didn't work out. What is funny, is that I know failures are part of life and are a great way to learn so I'm not even scared of failing but I sometimes act as if I was, I must have more faith in myself.
I agree.
Hahahaha, normally, I would have said yes but I just read one of his books and he said he learns more of his successes than his failures.
I wouldn't have expected less from a man very different to most successful people. That's Donald for you.
Yes, in my researches, I found out studies were made on the consequences of rejection. Researchers found out the human body send the same signals after rejection, as after suffering physical pain. I guess you could call it ''psychological pain'' and while, I agree with all you wrote, I know it's right, I felt too much of that psychological pain during my childhood and it blocks me BUT I know it and I'm very determined to break free! Further researches have proved that fighting rejection by exposing ourselves to rejection and telling ourselves it's all right and go for more rejection, will eventually desensitize us and cure us. I've been knowing it for some time now but I must put it into practise... the hardest part!
That's right, I feel very much healthy but I long for love and I can't recall the number of articles I read online, about the many benefits of love relationships on the human.
Yes, I will finally break free from the chains of my past.
I so agree with you. I'll admit I often dreamed of having a woman in my life, to share all my success with but for various reasons, it has not materialized... yet. I feel the day is coming and probably sooner than I think.
That sounds like a very good deal, minimal risk and with everything to win. I have nothing to lose!
Again, you strike right. I remember apologizing to my father in the past for being such a failure and the worst son he could possibly hope for. He said that he loved me as I am, that despite many setbacks I always came back stronger and always succeeded and that he would always support me no matter what I do. I cried for 5 minutes.
Wow, you sir, are a sage and I thank you with all my heart. Your post brought so much sense, so much clarity and so much light, in my life. I'm gonna apply it's principles from now on and for the rest of my life.
THANK YOU!!