Hello everyone,

Thank you for reading my post. I am pleased to find a place like this where i can ask psychological and relationship related questions. Its satisfying to talk about things to people who would appreciate and give rational advise :-)

Here is my situation :

I am a 31 years old Muslim Asian male (born and raised in Asia, i do not practice Islam) dating a British born Hindu woman (31 years old) for one and half year in UK. We have a very sound relationship. She is a successful entrepreneur and I have a master degree with six years professional experience. We plan to settle down together in future.

As its said we have a healthy relationship, except the fact that I dont like she comes back home after 2AM from social activities. Of course its her choice but I just cant accept it. I do not stay out after 2 AM either. Its just my thing. I tried tell myself its OK, she needs space, but it didn't work. I get mad and start to break things ( eg, wine glass, mugs). I think i have an anger issue. Which needs to be sorted.I think I had developed it seeing my parents arguing and fighting a lot during my childhood and teenage period.

Jealousy! yes I am jealous to certain degree like everybody else but main issue is coming home late. I have talked about this with her a few times, she said she would change and try to come home early.But she is keep failing to do so.However I have notice that she going out less than before.

I was thinking is it related the way I brought up, if so how can I change my mentality? How can i accept the fact its ok for her to come home late? Am I expecting too much? Shall I end this relation and find a Muslim girl, hahaha. I have dated a few western women before, in Bangkok where I lived for 10 years. I faced similar problem. Or am i control freak?!!

I would really appreciate you guys share your opinion regarding this issue. I am kind of lost and I am really tired of fighting with her about this.

Thanks a lot guys.

:-)