Hope you'll forgive me replying, I'm so sorry you are feeling like this.

I didn't see this thread until today, but even so what Bill wrote is often true for me - sometimes I don't know what to say to be helpful. Tbh there have been a few times (with posters generally not you) where I fear I may have made things worse without meaning to.

I hope you don't delete, I know you are valued here by many.