Thank you all for your responses. These are my siblings and were not a part of the abuse. It wasn't until this past year I even told them about it.

I have talked with my tdoc and I have every confidence that she will be there for me and do as I ask. She has challenged me with the same questions you have. We have talked about what her role will be. We have sort of an agenda. THis will be a meeting, not a session.

I have no intention of discussing any specifics with them; they don't need to know any of it. They want to understand the EMDR process. I want them to understand what all this is about, technically, and also how hard it is for me. I want them to understand what happens to a child psychologically and developmentally under these circumstances.

They are very concerned about me because when I am having a bad day, the day actually lasts several days and gets really bad.

I also have abandonment issues I am working through and I never learned how to ask for help. I want them to be able to help, but I don't know how they can.

Here are the rules I have come up with. I didn't attached them to my first post because I wanted to see what else others came up with.

No opinions about my treatment. No challenging my therapist or decisions. I’ve done the research and these are the choices I’ve made
No discussion of specific events
No bringing up memories
Listen with an open mind. Realize that what you may remember, know or believe may not be my reality.
To avoid misunderstanding, think before speaking; it may not be what you say but how you say it.
Some things may not make sense, don’t expect them to.
Don’t take what is said personally- sometimes it’s just the way it is
I can say no at any time.
I can end the session at anytime
What is said in this session stays in this session as it relates specifically to me