Shattered sanity- I've felt like that in the past, I actually thought might as well help encourage. I tested a few and have gotten the exact same thing seems like too much, your not capable of helping, in I still feel that is true.....It would take a novel to put it all in perspective to know how to help/friend us. I think if you change your perspective based on what you have deal with them maybe you can open the door for friendship or examine if it is even needed. Today, I take anything as help, a view, listening ear, kind words . I just don't expect that much. When I get that much I just try to make sure my best selves are their for my friend, because ultimately there is going to be something you don't like about a person kinda similar to a relationships you love that friend for who they are despite the short comings hopeful the same is in return you and all alters involved.