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Jun 08, 2016, 12:37 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2008
Location: Australia
Posts: 8,135
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Originally Posted by OneDay89
How can you do that though? How can you just stop talking to someone whom you care for and is need of help?
well I cant... I know its good self care - but there is a balance to it - if the harm they do is worse than the good you do - if they continually hurt you - maybe you have to distance yourself form them - when my sister rings and she has been drinking I keep it short - don't talk much - let her ramble till she goes - and try not to get hurt...... doesn't always work
I am not disagreeing with the idea, you can't help her if you aren't in a good place yourself, but how do you stop? I deal with this everyday and I have never been able to find an answer. My T keeps telling me I have to worry about me and let other's take care of themselves. But how can I when I know that my actions hurt those around me.
if you are hurting others by your actions you need to discuss that with your T and ask for their assistance in handling those emotions or actions
Sometimes, during my "episodes", I do and say things that I can't figure out why I did them later on. When I get like that I can make others very uncomfortable and afraid, especially my friend / roommate.
do you know when you are getting like that? when I notice (and its hard to notice) that my PTSD has set off an explosion inside me I (if possible) remove myself from people and ground myself/distract till I calm down - that way my anger isn't taken out on others
I want to move out but I can't afford it and he couldn't afford the place on his own. But I can't stand the thought that my actions will keep hurting him. I don't think I will ever get better, I don't think that is even possible. Why is it to get better I have to hurt others around me. I don't want anyone around me, I don't want to hurt anyone that doesn't deserve it. I can't trust myself.
you really need to talk with your T about this and your flatmate - maybe ask them if you cant control yourself can they remove themselves till you are "better" maybe they will understand - and remove yourself first if you can - leave the room - go for a walk - take a shower
Do you leave those in need that you care for in need so you can care for yourself? How does one even begin to do that?
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When my T - (when I had one) when he used to say something I found hard - I would listen at the time and think that's impossible  - the I would go home and over the next week or fortnight before I saw him again I would think about what he had said - then when I saw him again we would discuss the things I was stuck on
My T said it came down to the old oxygen mask thing.....
you are on a plane and the oxygen masks fall - now if you try to help others before yourself you pass out because you havnt put your mask on - put your mask on first then help others - in other words make sure you are ok before you help others - I hope I explained that ok
I hope you talk to your T and I hope you work things out
Hugs if ok
P7
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