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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
I hear he's closed off, walls firmly up, but how open is he to the idea of feeling better?
Would self help be an option? is what I'm asking.
My bf has been very troubled, also from traumatic experiences in his youth, and used to be a closed book too. While he's not ready for professional assistance, he however does his best to help himself through his depressive episodes.
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I can't say for certain, but I'm leaning towards no because of his attitude towards himself. One of the things I did try was something I did with my sister - look in the mirror and tell youself five postive things about yourself. We got as far as sitting down in front of the mirror. He looked at himself for about 15 seconds before turning back to me and stating that I was crazy if I thought this was gonna happen.
I've never seen anyone do admant about a total lack of any positive attributes or such an inability to voice it - just one word even. Whatever they did to him, it had to have been like a drill sargent screaming at him non-stop because he does, rather intently being the all or nothing guy he is, hates himself. He is shouldering it all, thinking he, somewhere along the lines, ****ed up so bad that he couldn't even get one of natures most strongest and natural bond - a mother and her young - to remain. That's a lot for someone to hold, especially when they did nothing wrong but to be born to someone who didn't want you. And that's all he sees when he looks in the mirror, is all that hatred and disgust for destroying everything and he can't let that go and I don't know how to make him believe that he has it all backwards when it was your parents (and then people he's met randomly) confirm over 22 years that yeah, you ****ed up bad, Judas.
