Ypu know... I had to think about this.. there was someone that abused me.. not a T.. but a person in power.. a manager.. for 3 years.. so it was 3 years everyday verbal and psych.. abuse.. of working on a 20 man team me the only woman.. walking into "crap" each and everyday and then thank goodness.. I parted from the company.. I would have "parted" sooner.. but my son was in/out of hospital..and I needed the insurance....without the pre-existing condition... and this manager knew this.. and he exploited it.. made my life hell..

So.. this doesn't come even close to a power of a T... but it was the only thing I could relate it to.. so sorry.. if this is a bad example..

The first couple of times I ran into him I had a meltdown.. shaking.. sick..

And my therapist.. did her "thing"... talking about what a jerk he was.. and to take my "power" back..

So the next time I saw him in the post office.. yes the post office.. and I just started in on him (totally and completely not me).. told him what a jerk he was and exactly what he did to make him a jerk.. and how I thought he was a jerk..

and he calmly said "I thought that I treated you well"..

I was speechless.. and it ended..

Then.. fast forward...

I saw him at a big grocery store chain and you guessed it..
my therapist had been working on me expressing my anger.. cause I turn my anger into my eating disorder,, I wanted my "life" back from what this man had put me thru..

and I just started yelling at him.. what a "xxx" he was.. how he had caused me so much stress I had an eating disorder... how much I truely disliked him.. how he abused his staff.. and on and on..

and it was loud... yepper.. very loud... lasted a few seconds.. and he wanted to crawal someplace and hide..

BUT I felt better... I felt like I "owned" my life again.. that a huge weight was gone...
And I have seen him since.. and I am "done" with him..and yepper.. he "cringes" when he sees me.. he was a bully.. and he got called out....

Don't know if this in any way helped.. as I said.. T hold some much more power.. but it was the only thing I could think of...

just wanted to try and help ((((hugs)))))