I just want him to live, first and foremost. What else may happen, so be it.
I guess I protrayed him rather rough - and he can be. But he would never, snd I say this conviction, hit a women or a child. That's his trigger, when he fights. Every fight I have seen him initiate was started because someone was hitting, grabbing, yelling at, or as in the first example, raping, a women. Unless he started it to intentionally hurt himself, in which cases ot's usually started with a guy who has a few friends around. He takes no chances of coming out on top.
He has never done anything to ever give me a moment to worry. This is a guy who opens the car door and pulls out the chair and won't let me walk by the road. He is, for someone who has been treated like **** by people his whole life, probably the most respectful, sincere, caring guy I know. Let alone one in his early 20's.
There are certain things he can't handle and violence against women and children (animals, as well. He is big on animal rights) and I can't fault him for that... I don't agree with how he handles it but I have to say, if it were my daughter out there I would rather someone like Judas around who will step in instead of walking on with just a call to the cops.

As for the romance part... it's not something he needs. He needs to figure himself out before he can truly be involved but again, I think there is some misinterpretation.
Several years ago he was in a fairly serious relationship (this was before I knew him but Aden was around) that, obviously, fell apart. She broke up with him explaining that while she still loved him, he wasn't changing fast enough and was just to needy and she needed someone less insecure.
I honestly believe that all he wants is to be able to love and have someone love him. But he invested so much but in the end it was all for naught because he still wasn't good enough. He still speaks highly of her but you can tell it did a lot of damage. He's scared, I think, to go through that heartbreak again and it's not as if he has a history of people who haven't let him down.
He is easing into it slowly but weighing the options, I guess. He already thinks that he is not good enough for me, ergo I will break his heart, but will the happiness between the beginniing and the end be worth the pain? I believe that's more his line of thinking.