My gut says to ignore your direct request for a response, but it's needling me to death to leave you hanging, which you probably actually expected or even hoped for. At the risk of sounding like a complete hypocrite, no one told you to get defensive about anything. Though I understand that the avoidant response to "you deserve better" is to deny everything completely.

Attachment style is how people have relationships; a personality disorder is a pattern of behavior in all areas of one's life. For you it might seem like they overlap and align based on your own experience, but they absolutely are separate things. If you're reading something about an attachment style, you can't say that it automatically applies to a personality disorder. It might resonate for you, but there are people who, for instance, can have secure attachments in spite of their avoidance. I had given you an example, but alas, the compulsion to edit has overtaken me.

Additionally, I never said that the goal of therapy was to speed through it. I'll give you the benefit of the doubt, but it feels like you were accusing me or putting words in my mouth. At any rate, again, from the perspective of someone with an AvPD diagnosis, which is the opinion you were seeking, I can tell you that progress in therapy for avoidants can be quick or slow or even seem to be moving backward, and the rate of change and progress is not tied to the diagnosis. One common reason that someone with AvPD leaves therapy is because the changes happen too quickly. By change I mean the acquisition of less maladaptive coping techniques, not that the PD itself changes.

I have answered you generally (regardless of how personally you took it) because I know there are tons of people who could read this thread and glean insight. You asked, why can't you talk to your therapist the way you can write in your journal? I answered you, and suggested ways to get over that hurdle. You had asked for suggestions, but you didn't like the ones I offered, and made it clear in your response. Avoidant people don't stick their necks out unless they're fairly sure they'll get a positive response. Because I'm fairly sure of the exact opposite in this case, I'm done sticking my neck out in this thread. I'm not sure other avoidants would chance it either. But you never know, maybe you'll get advice that you like from someone else.