Right. But the good person still makes a choice to subscribe to the rules of the dysfunctional system and that choice is on them.

This is not to judge anyone. After all, people need to eat and so they have to make a living somehow, and we don't live in the perfect world where you can just easily quit a job once you realize that it compromises your integrity and find your dream job.

I am no saint myself, I had to succumb to the demands of the dysfunctional system to some extend in order to get my degree and then my license and then to keep employment. But I could only do it to a point. Whenever I could I challenged the rules of the game as much as I could and when it was impossible to stay at a certain place without losing self-respect, I'd leave. If I hadn't had the financial support, maybe I would've stayed longer at the oppressive places, but, knowing myself, it's unlikely. I'd rather struggle financially than to sell my soul.

Again, that's not to say that everyone should do what I did but just to say that I understand what pressures people to play by the rules..But, I think, this could be said about virtually every job and every profession.

Also, in the very beginning of my career I was genuinely unaware of all the crap I would have to face in my personal therapy and in my professional training. The first six months of my first therapy felt fantastic and I was eager to implement my first T's methods and all the theories I learned in school with my own clients. I sincerely believed that was the way to go. I have no idea if it harmed anyone or not. Whenever clients didn't like something I did they'd usually leave so there was no "working through transference" or anything like that. I guess, I was naturally repulsed by this method and didn't use it in my work even though my T used it on me. But I did other stupid things which I won't go into.

But with those clients who were satisfied, we did some good work together and it felt truly fulfilling.

I have to say though that I never worked with anyone for longer than a year. This is another thing I have an aversion to. I don't believe in long-term therapy with the same therapist. Every therapist, as a human being, will have their limitations. I know that from my own therapy. I grew as my therapy proceeded and a year later my needs were different from when I started and, once that happened, I needed to move on and find a new person to work with. The same was with my clients. I never had a problem with any of them leaving when they needed to leave because I knew I had my natural limitations and I could do just so much for each of them.