First time i questioned my marriage was in 2012. I crashed pretty hard and was at the lowest point in my life mentally, emotionally, and financially... I didn't want to live.

long story short.. I reached out for help to a crisis center for combat Veterans, They helped me get back on my feet and to get out of that dark place in my head.

Counselors wanted both of us to attend support classes and sessions etc.. -- Wife refused. I thought she was scared.. .so I kept pleading.... she was very unsympathetic... eventually saying, It was NOT her problem.
-- That hurt a lot, especially after years and years of marriage... it's been downhill ever since and we will probably separate. I'm sad, but not an emotional wreck.