i guess it's over when we die

((((((((freewill)))))))

do problems in ones life ever stop?? and when a crisis, stressful thing happens, then we fall back into old, bad habits and feel terrible and everyone has bad habits, some are food, others alcohol, etc etc

At the risk of sounding like a T all you can do is pick yourself up and try again. I hate it when they say stuff like that because it sounds so stupid and impossible and that they just don't understand.
you are not a failure or terrible for falling off the wagon - at least you were on the wagon to begin with. You went how long without falling off?? that was really

now you have to try beat that record