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Old Jun 09, 2016, 12:42 PM
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Originally Posted by Petra5ed View Post
I have been hurt by therapy, but that being said I came into therapy like a walking wound. I feel like a child sometimes around my therapist, in terms of my desires, but I think like an adult now. I am no longer a child and I never will be. That to me is the biggest difference.

Here is the confusing part to me, if you have stuffed all the emotion of a bad childhood, and because of this you are having these unhealthy attachments, then is it the therapist that's pulling the strings and traumatizing you or is it just your issues, and you were already traumatized? I cant hold my therapist accountable for my emotional instability, when he's not the one who abused me, he's not the parent that left me, or the mother that beat me, or anyone who caused me trauma. He is the reflection of all that I wanted and missed as a child. That is painful, but it is what it is.
Frankly, I've observed most human beings capable of occasional childish moments, or neediness or susceptible to domineering leadership. I've seen people forgo judgment or act against their own self-interests under the thrall of a charismatic leader. I see a need a common need for a strong man (or woman), a shaman who holds the secret answers. This seems a pervasive human fantasy.

My particular therapists seemed more than happy to play fantasy-role to my weakest aspects, the infant longing return to a protective, all-knowing parent. Yet in reality I was an adult with a decent job, a house and no major liabilities or self-endangerment beyond my deference tendency and general geekiness. Therapists could have cultivated my strengths. But instead they manipulated my weaknesses.
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