i have heard it said that neglect is the cruelest form of abuse, because it is empty. there is nothing to react to. learning to care for ourselves is something we all need to do, at some age, at some time, sometimes over again. i, too, have had to relearn self care, am still learning it. i know perfectly well how to shower, but i have no urge to do so, no 'need' to feel clean. it's a very hard thing to overcome, but since i have decided to, i am making progress (a little at a time, cumulative).

i hope you find self-care, and the causes of self-care~!