But they are getting rejected either way.

I guess this is just me being navieve or the black hole inside my 'social skills'. I find this quite puzzling, to be honest. But you may not be wrong. It just doesn't make any sense to me.

I don't experience a lot of drama and I used to think it happens just on tv, but when I read here, there are a lot of very strange things, bad things, people do inside relationships.