Well, for one I wouldn't call what he said an accusation.... Seems more like an observation on his part (from how you describe yourself) but that's not to say your emotional reaction is invalid.


I say this only because I've learned that the way I perceive things impacts my thought processes and emotions directly, and have worked hard at obtaining accurate perceptions.


The fact is, people don't usually like it when others point out something "negative" about them, even if there's truth to what they say, sometimes especially when.


That's not to say you don't like hearing the truth, I'm generalizing on a large scale here to hopefully make my post coherent because I should be asleep.


And sometimes its not because we don't like hearing the truth, but the person who's pointing it out, doesn't know the root of said painful truth, and probably misunderstands us completely.


Idk what the solution is, but when I'm put in similar situations and its not someone I can speak freely with, I just answer with, "That may be what it looks like to you, but not everything is black and white"...


Or if I feel comfortable sharing, I would communicate with the friend because I don't deal well at all with being misunderstood. I very much prefer clarity all round


I hope you're able to figure this all out.