I didn't get married until I was 39. When I was 35 I met and ultimately married my "soul mate". I dated other people, had a couple of proposals of marriage, but they weren't "right" for me. I think some people just don't stop and think long and hard enough about whether a person is "right" for them or know themselves well enough to see why they are attracted to particular people and, if those people aren't what they want, what to do about it?

My husband loves to quote a line I hate to hear :-) about how "you shouldn't order a hamburger in a seafood restaurant" (allegedly it won't be any good because their specialty is seafood, not beef) and I think that goes with people. You can't worry about what other people want in a person or what you "should" want in a person. You have to take care of yourself and become interested, understanding, compassionate, etc. if you want that in another person. We reflect one another so if you are a woman who wants a guy who is tall, dark, and handsome, you'll probably attract a guy who wants a woman who is blonde, thin, and has no brains :-) Look at specific, individual traits you want in another and work on developing them in yourself and that's what will be attracted. You are the other half of the "magnet"; what are you attracting?