You all might not be as invisible as you think! I think that a lot of the time our subconscious only allows us to see 'proof' of the poor self image we have of ourselves. If we are feeling self conscious sometimes we put out the image that we don't want to engage in conversation. a lot of the time, the squeaky wheel gets the oil.

If you want to be more involved in conversations the best thing you can do is get others to talk about themselves. I've been a hairstylist for 20+ years and one thing that has remained consistent is people like to talk about themselves. Co-workers that only talk about themselves do not retain many clients. Listening to someone constantly talk only about themselves gets old, quick, no matter how awesome the stories are. If you know that your bf mom has a hobby or went on a trip, ask her about it! I swear she will be paying more attention to you.