I used the dating sites for years after my divorce, thinking I'd meet "Mr. Right." and found myself in a quagmires of losers, some of whom I tried to know. I was in my 40's at the time, and most of the men I met...first of all, were eager for a face-to-face meetup. I preferred to correspond for a while, getting to know who and what they were about. They were NOT willing to do this! The ones I DID meet and get to know were looking for a caregiver, either financially or physically, and not willing to give the 50% toward a balanced relationship. I gave up on that, and I'm happy alone. This is not to suggest you should give up, but a man who texts you after a month of silence...ignore him!