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I made a statement about how I handle something at home and T just made a statement about how he believes these things should be managed and then stated that he was sorry I felt differently...

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It can feel quite threatening when we do or say something and someone else says 'you should have done / said this xxx'. Sometimes it can be a matter of me already feeling upset about what I've said / done...

It just doesn't feel very validating. Maybe if he had sympathised with what you had done from your perspective... Then you would have been better placed to hear his point of view.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">sister, I was reminded of what you wrote once about how your T sometimes says, "sister, I have a fantasy that...." and then he says his point of view or idea. I think that is a really non-threatening way to state an opinion that may differ from the person you are talking to. The reason I thought of this is that yesterday in my session, my T, who has never said this before, said, "sunny, I have a fantasy that..." and then he said his vision of how he would like things to go. When he said this, I was thinking, hey, just like sister's T! They must have gone to the same school or something. So I thought of you in therapy yesterday, sister!