</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
What I don't understand though is why, after all of this and so much more happening, why when things are worst in my life, is she on my mind and why do I have such urges to call her up.. to try to talk to her.. why do I still wish she would be there to console me? I know she isn't capable of being there for me like that and I can't understand why then that's what I seem to want most right now..

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">

Beth, I found that the relationships I am having trouble in often bring up unresolved past relationships. I am dealing with that now. The worse the relationship problem becomes, the less I am able to cope with it - the more I obsess about a relationship in my past. When I finally resolved the issues in my own heart concerning my mother, it was amazing how the relationship I was in currently became resolved. I had new strength, new coping skills, a new outlook, and approached the current relationship much differently, and it did what it needed to do - resolve with peace. The relationship with that current person mirrored the relationship with my mother. It triggered those long hurts right and left. I am in a current relationship right now that is triggering another unresolved unclosed painful relationship from my past. I am going to my first therapy session in 15 years on Monday. . . I'm looking forward to gaining peace on both fronts.


Bethanna