Hi, Hope you're ok.

You sound like a fairly reasonable woman and your boyfriend is a lucky man.

Don't be too hard on him re: sex and pregnancy as many men find it difficult to have sex with their pregnant partner for lots of different reasons - I experienced similar from my husband with all my pregnancies. He either thought he'd hurt the baby, hurt me, cause early labour and one time just pulled a face and said "But there's a baby there". I understand you're feeling hurt and rejection (I definitely felt it too) but you just have to explain that its safe and that you need to have sex in your relationship to feel close - in other words just talk to him.

Re: not being able to be there for the birth - I understand your feelings but some men frankly should not be in the birthing room. I have heard stories from friends who felt like they were looking after their partner whilst in the midst of labour. Maybe your man is one of those? Again, talk to him - its probably upsetting to him too that he may miss the birth. Maybe he could talk to the gentleman he has to work with and negotiate to hold off the trip until after the baby has come. People are generally reasonable especially when it comes to a life event as big as having a baby.

Remember that hen you're pregnant your emotions can be elevated - its just a fact - and you would naturally have some anxious feelings starting to creep in about the birth especially when its your first - all mothers have experienced that even if they try to tell you otherwise.

Congratulations and best of thoughts for you when bub comes. Remember that nothing truly rewarding ever comes without effort.