TishaBuv and eskielover - I am so glad to hear that I am not the only one. My mother does not have a diagnoses but has require one for decades. She is a negative, controlling narcissist. I have 2 siblings who took off as soon as they could (live on the other side of the world) to get away from her and I have been left to deal with her issues because of my risk averse and beaten down sense of responsibility to her. Don't get me wring, I love my mother but I resent being left to deal with her alone. To make matters worse, here are times when I hear her voice coming out of my own mouth despite a life long determination to be nothing like her. I am NOT like her but it is frightening to think that she's lurking in me somewhere.