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Originally Posted by growlycat
Welcome!! I have struggled with a T crush for so long. An ethical T will refrain from romantic/sexual interactions with patients, but a wise T is self aware enough to know that it only human to have feelings in such an intimate setting. Having feelings is normal, acting on them in therapy is unethical for a therapist. Your T may be struggling to control natural emotions and automatic responses. It is T's responsibility to keep it in check and manage his/her reactions. Denying these feelings can be confusing for the patient who can SEE the awkward glances, blushing etc. A good T will not shy away from the topic.
Is your T young or inexperienced? Being supervised?
Just know that T has to keep therapy safe--it is not your responsibility, it is his.
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Hello growlycat, thank you for your reply and warm welcome! Well, I don't think we have any danger of him acting on anything, if anything is there, because he definitely would never even tell me if he had any feelings. Which is sad because it is so torturous to keep seeing things that make me think he likes me... only to think I must be going absolutely crazy because he has hinted that I only "thought" he liked me, implying that he most definitely does not. But then I always shy away from confronting him on those things, because I did it once and he seemed to pull back a little, not much, but a little and I noticed, so I quit immediately. He is not inexperienced but is still fairly young. He has been involved in counseling since doing volunteer work in the field during high school, he has over a decade of experience in various capacities and all the proper schooling and training but is only in his late twenties. He did enter into supervision when I confessed my feelings to him but I am unaware of whether or not he still attends supervision on the matter or how many supervision sessions he attended. However I cannot stress enough how confident I am that this man would never be receptive to turning this into anything more than a therapist/client relationship. So do not worry about that at all.
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