Hello jpmanyhearts: I'm sorry... but from the Skeezyks' perspective there's little or nothing you can do here. Your wife is an adult. She has to take responsibility for herself. If she cannot, or will not, you can't save her. What you can do, & must do, is to take care of yourself... whatever that entails. If you don't know how to do that, then you may want to seek some counseling or therapy for yourself in order to help you figure out what you need to do. You cannot, nor should you, attempt to diagnose your wife. This is a job for a mental health professional. And you can't force her to see one if she chooses not to.