It sounds like you might appreciate someone who practices Client-centered Therapy, as invented by Carl Rogers. "Client-centered" does not mean that the therapist puts the client first in some sense. Rather, it means that the therapist practices a specific, non-directive, disciplined, limited method of listening and responding.

In this approach, therapists are nonjudgmentally attuned to whatever clients say, and to their underlying feelings. Therapists state/restate/clarify what is said and felt so as to demonstrate understanding and acceptance of what clients are saying and feeling, without directing or judging clients. When clients find themselves so well understood and accepted, they typically feel encouraged to explore themselves further.