Thank you for clarifying. I get what you mean. The running theme seems to be that she is not hearing, nor being attuned, to you. Seems like you are talking to a wall. A humanist approach would seem more suitable..

Would it possible (unless you already did so) to have a frank discussion with her - i.e. you telling her your needs (at least the important stuff like validation, showing care, etc.) and see if she/you both can work around this. Although not ideal (even if you have to put up with irritating breathing exercises), this way you'd still have minimum support - which is always better than nothing.

Of course, it depends on how untenable therapy is with her..