I was born in 1953 and grew up with the word "queer" being a very derogatory term, on the same level as the "n" word or the "f" word. That's how it was. Over time, I've become more comfortable with it as long as it's not used derogatorily. For me, it's more about how you say something as opposed to what you say but I'm still not comfortable with the other two!