I can definitely relate, except I know for sure "Drama Queen", or "Over reactive", wasn't thrown in my face or said to make me feel less than. It was to bring awareness to my behavior, and once I was able to understand that, and not attach negative emotional connotations to those words, I was able to apply the criticism constructively.


My bf is very good at de-escalating an argument, so now instead of incessantly attempting to detonate regardless, I allow him to defuse the impending explosive argument.


This gives us both (mainly me) time to calm down and have a calm rational discussion.


In answer to your second question, no I don't feel lost or that he has the upper hand in our relationship.

His cool, calm and collected way helps to keep me grounded, he's an effective sounding board, or gauge.


I would just like to add that, with my own set of MH issues, none of this has been easy, and would not have been possible without trust.