There's no way that she and I would be friends -- we'd get on each other's nerves in no time flat. Basically, because I don't think we have the slightest clue (or respect?) for what makes each of us tick -- so, there's nothing close to that sense of mutual acceptance / understanding of the basic core of each other and each other's foibles in particular to have a friendship or even anything other than a solid, professional relationship.

I can say that rather confidently (and, at the risk of sounding like I'm projecting) because she reminds me of a couple of people in my life with who I had to try to really hard to be friends (they tried too) because circumstances threw us together -- for instance, where they were dating someone I really cared about; were my de-facto academic advisors; and so on. It felt / feels like pulling teeth every single time because we really have to struggle to figure out each other's viewpoints and can't seem to arrive at that space of easy understanding / giving each other the benefit of the doubt, the way it usually naturally happens with someone you click with.

It has made me often wonder if I should switch Ts.

The upside of that though -- really -- is that it has made it much less likely (almost impossible) for me to get emotionally entangled with her (and end up in a right royal mess the way I usually do when I 'click' with someone and have that kind of easy emotional bond). And, so the lack of a sort of personal connection has made it possible for me to say all kinds of difficult stuff to her -- including how she isn't doing her job right -- in ways that I would find it very hard to do if I really felt like we got along on a personal level (and not just a professional one).

And yep, I'm also super formal and reserved with my T.