Hi Wants2Fly,

Wow, this one really took quite a while to go through. I found that her message says "a lot of nothing with a lot of words".

It doesn't seem like you have known her long enough or well enough for her to criticize you. She only knows a small subset of your life, so I would not take what she says to be of much value.

There were only 2 points that I found were of any value & that does not mean that they apply to you. They are only points that apply to life in general.

The first point is that when being in a location where your spiritual community is not available, then it doesn't hurt to TRY to find something else that might possibly fulfill that void. That possibility should not be overlooked & there is a chance that there may be a better choice that hasn't been discovered yet.

The other point that I tend to agree with is that a person is responsible & accountable for their life. If one plays the victom role, then it is easy to use that as a reason not to take personal responsibility for finding peace in our lives. I have found that when I define what gives me peace & makes me happy & fulfilled, then I know what I need to persue for my future...taking into consideration that my spirituality is internal & is included in my decisions of what I need to make me happy. When I am truly satisfied with myself, then it doesn't matter what others say or do.

It seems that your paths have crossed in you settling in to New Orleans. Maybe subconsciously, you already realized that she is not right for you to be associated with. That may be why you did not follow through with your meetings. Don't try to make something work that isn't good for you. I would just drop the relationship "without saying anything". Just let it go away...it's not worth the effort to try to make it work. She is NOT a friend...you do not need her.

Just my opinion,
Debbie