This Fathers Day I'll have to put up with my very difficult father. He invited himself over here like usual, ugh! I'll spare everyone the details and just say that I'm sure that he's has a narcissistic personality disorder and that he's also biploar but unmedicated. He has a very controlling personality. Everything is all about him and what he wants. When he doesn't get his way, he gets very upset and explodes like a small child who is denied a toy or something like that.

Well, long story short, my husband and I came back from a a two and a half week trip recently. AND I caught a sinus infection a week into the trip. I was still sick, and at my sickest when we came back. On the phone, he did NOT even ASK me how the trip was. He only asked if him and my mom could come visit us THAT weekend! WTH?

That is so typical of him, and even my husband and my mom think that he is crazy. I told him that I'm sick, but he didn't NOT care about that at ALL! He didn't even say, oh, sorry to hear that, I hope that you get better soon. That's because he is a selfish and insane person and always has been when it came to us.

He then snapped at me and told me that I don't want him over there. I told him that I'm sick, and that we're jet lagged and that I'm not going to deal with him right now. I hung up the phone after that. What a jerk! I HATE seeing him! He NEVER asks me if it's OK to come over! He'll call my husband , and then expect him to say yes. My husband now has to ask me if it's OK. He used to say yes to him w/o telling me first. I MADE him ASK me first.

Everytime he is over, he yells at me and my mom. He'll sit there and watch T.V and will have to be told that we're ready to leave numerous times before he even attempts to get ready to leave. He acts like our house is his, so he'll wake up early, and then knock on my door and expect me to get up early too too! He'll even knock on the door! He has NO manners! He'll try to sneak a peak into rooms with locked doors too! I have had to yell at him to not snoop as there is a reason the doors are closed! He is super nosy!

My mom is a nag too, so I'm not looking forward to seing her as she is critical too and she never shuts up. She is super annoying, and my husband agrees. He's very nice to them since they're old though. And not matter how stupid, crazy, and annoying old people are, he was raised to always be nice to them no matter what. They know that they can get away with almost anything, so they push boundaries all the time. I have to yell at them sometimes to keep them in line as being polite and talking to them has never worked.

Even my mom said that she'd make an excuse to not visit me when we got back since even SHE knows that visiting people right after a long trip from half way around the world is NOT OK, nor is it normal. It's even crazier to get mad about saying no to a visit, especially when someone is sick! He is insane!

How should I have handled the situation? To make things worse, my husband thought that I was being "nasty" with my dad. I was annoyed, but not nasty. How can anyone not be annoyed when being yelled at when they're sick and jet lagged and that person didn't even care enough to ask you how your trip was, or even hope that you get better? Let alone your own dad! I made a mistake of talking to him on speaker that time. Never again. He always takes his side, ugh! How would you feel if your dad treated you like that? He still hasn't even asked me about the trip or how I'm doing after all this time, and it's been over a week since we got back! He's nuts!