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Originally Posted by TiredPilgrim
I'm sorry you have to deal with this, Shy.  It sounds like you made a good start on the phone, though. You stood your ground, you gave good reasons for why they couldn't visit, and you hung up instead of getting bogged down in your father's ranting behavior. I think it is reasonable of you to expect to be given a certain period of time to recover from trips or illnesses.
I think it is reasonable to expect your husband to back you up with your father, especially when family dynamics are unhealthy at best. You might consider giving your husband a heads up next time when possible about what you would like to do or not do regarding your father. So he has a chance to be supportive of you, and less opportunity to fall back on his instinct to 'humor' his seniors.
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Thanks! I have written off that crazy freak years ago. His behaviour towards me now isn't quite as bad as it used to be, but it can still be bad at times. He no longer makes comments about my weight or gives me advice about my weight for example. I yelled at those two morons so many times to not do that, that even they go it after awhile, lol!
My husband is a bit sexist at times too, but not as bad as my dad for sure! I have put my foot down very hard with him too, so he doesn't dare cross me now! Ha ha! Finally! Victory at last!!!!! He'll NEVER be supportive of me. He even goes so far to cater to them, that he'll listen to my mom NAG him to DEATH about things that my late grandma did to upset her and how mean she was to her after more than 30 plus years ago.
She is insane too! He'll just sit there and nod his head and go uh huh, but when we're alone, he'll say, OMG, your mom blew my head again, she just wont' stop talking about the same crap again! I then laugh and tell him that he deserves what he gets for not having the guts to make an excuse to leave, and that's what he gets for being overly polite, lol!