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Old Jun 13, 2016, 02:46 AM
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Originally Posted by RedSun View Post
Transference is more than feelings, in that you project an expectation onto someone of who/how they will be, then interact with the projection rather than the actual person. Eg, my Mum was always really dismissive of my stuff, so I get scared sharing stuff with T because I think she will dismiss it too. I'm transferring my internalisation of my Mum onto my T.
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I have exactly this problem too. So far my T has been nothing but validating and understanding towards me yet the fear is still strong. I also fantasize about T taking care of me in a motherly way. T is only about 10 years older than me at the most so that kind of makes the maternal transference that much more weird for me.

I have experienced transference with my two previous Ts too but not as intensely as current T.
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