Hi Mary there is no arbitrary timeframe in which you "should" be over someone. If you sre not ready to move on yet then just be kind and gentle with yourself and allow yourheart the time it needs to heal..but if you feel like you are healed of heart but stuck in mind ruminating and or fear of future rejection is what is keeping you from moving on, then I would suggest trying baby steps if nesescary to slowly push yourself back into the world. You dont have to be ready for full steam ahead back into the dating pool but start going out w/ friends or coworkers, get comfortable again feeling social and single and try when ready to be open to opportunity and by being out and social w/ others also hopefully your comfort level towards small talk will increase to eventually being able to intiate a conversation with someone new.