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Old Jun 13, 2016, 08:34 AM
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No, never felt anything of the sort.

I had students who had/have maternal transference for me because they had no mother/mother figure in their life and/or are victims of abuse and I am kind of "motherly" type. It usually started to get less intense as they stop seeing me every day and only keep in touch or see me on a less regular basis, weekly or monthly or more infrequent or completely stops over time. ( I am a special Ed teacher/case manager and often continue transitioning my students years after their graduation until they are self sufficient )

In my experience it always happens when something major is missing in their life ( mother in case of my students).

As I see most people with severe attachment to Ts are missing something like a romantic relationship or a friend or a mother or a father and try to find that in their t/teacher/mentor.

I believe it could be a positive thing as " mother" figure could help to make better decisions. I can tell lots of stories over the years.

I also see how it often becomes extremely negative ( reading on this forum) when people are unable to function on their own when t is gone or demand friendships and romance from their Ts. I think it's Ts job to guide a client so they don't need to obsess over t and can navigate and manage their life eventually. Some Ts cultivate extreme dependency and that's just wrong IMHO

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