I don't think my T and I would be friends if we met elsewhere. I mean, I think we'd get along fine, but I'm also having trouble thinking of how our paths would cross. Maybe if her grandkids and my daughter were in the same class or something, since they're around the same age?

With my marriage counselor, I could definitely see being friends with him if H and I met him in a different circumstance--H has even mentioned that he could see us all hanging out, like having a beer together or watching a football or hockey game or something. He's also closer in age to us (like 12 years vs. 25 years) than T, plus he shows much more of himself in therapy, so I think that's part of it.