When I first told my T how I felt abt him he said it was exciting, lol. A year later I told him I love him like a parent. He said he was touched

junkDNA I assume he meant that he was excited about the therapeutic avenues that opened up!

A number of people have mentioned the word 'transference' being used in therapy as a way of dismissing, or discounting, the client's experience. I definitely that it is a problem that it is used that way.