I guess I am (irl) too trusting of people and this has led to me having serious head screw moments... I guess as a result of being unable to reconcile between what someone says and what they actually do.

Further problem with this is that I don't have a happy medium when it comes to dealing with change - I either go to one extreme or the other (once the initial overwhelm meltdown has passed)... in this instance, I've stopped talking or socializing much with 'anyone', not just those that I've had issue with.

It's left me feeling rudderless... as I would like to think I'm a social person at heart... but the reaction of others (in this specific instance - health care professionals) can be so woolly and all over the place, that I'm scared to open my mouth in case I inadvertently shoot myself in the foot.

From a fellow aspie point of view, would be interesting to see if others have faced this kind of problem?... how did you deal with it? Were you happy with the result?