As a single guy, dating has been really rough and massively depressing for me over the last few years... and by dating I don't mean "going on bad dates", or "dating women that don't work out", I mean it's going on three years since I've had a date.

I'm not meeting anyone anywhere that are flirty/interested/available/eligible/etc. Women in my circle of friends, out-and-about, engaging in activities I enjoy, work, MeetUps, or what seems like the only way people really want to meet prospective significant others these days: online dating & dating apps... not for the lack of trying though. But, be it organic or digital environs, I've come to feel like I just must be worthless, repulsive garbage... even though if I self survey, I don't see that in myself. I'm hard working, passionate, active, healthy, reasonably intelligent, have diverse interests, open minded, decent looking (I think), caring, confident, etc. I just can't figure out why I'm so ubiquitously repulsive to women. I know that I'm not going to be everyone's proverbial cup of tea, or even many people's, but no one's cup of tea?

It's extremely frustrating as I'm at (and have been at) a point in my life where I really want to seriously start looking for that right person to be with; to fall in love with, travel with, grow with, make a home with, etc., etc. and while I'm very much trying to be patient here, there has extraordinarily little in the way of potential female counterparts on the same page. If anything, as my life has gotten more together, my career has taken off, I've come to better understand myself and what's important to me... the options went from slim to none. This year I quit drinking, upped my exercise regimen, started sleeping better, eating better, focusing on my passions and happiness, and it's more tumbleweeds than ever. The better I feel like I get, the less desirable I am. It's madding.

I'd like to think I've got a lot to offer someone. I'm not looking for hookups (but even when I did try to fill my lonely gaps with a more FWB type profile, I got nothing either); it's been trying but I've done well in my career, I have the means and desire to travel and experience the world with someone; I enjoy cooking, dining out, day trips, sharing responsibilities, spending time with my family, seeing live music, going to museums, art walks, sporting events... I could go on.

I'm just so exhausted of being alone with not feeling like there's a future other than never finding love and a satisfying you adulthood. I recently deleted all of my online dating profiles except Tinder, not because it's good... I've never had a date and almost never get matches... it's just easier than sending out hundreds of messages to girls only to be ignored utterly. I just got so tired of my ego getting stomped into the dirt every time I logged on. Just not feeling like I'll ever be good enough for even a simple conversation.

All I want to go on dates with some people I might be interested in, one a fiscal quarter would be spectacular at this point in time, but I'm simply looked at as passable garbage for some reason I can't glean and I'm always in the wrong places at the wrong times because great, single women don't exist anywhere in my world. I keep looking for answers and trying to explain myself and my situation, but no one has any good advice. One of my best friends says it's "just not being in the right circumstances", but I feel like the "right circumstances" is some alien place I'm not welcome.